It's Time To Get Serious About Boundaries
Hi Friend,
 Adults with ADD very often have trouble creating boundaries.
September, in particular, can be a difficult time as the world picks up its pace. It's back to school for the students. More projects suddenly appear at work. Retailers are beginning to drop hints about the holiday season. And any minute now your phone will start ringing as people begin asking you to help out with various causes and functions.
There's a lot going on, and you can get overwhelmed just thinking about it!
Without the appropriate boundaries, adults with ADD fall victim to the overwhelm-burnout cycle. You get completely overwhelmed trying to accomplish everything that you're "supposed to," and then you burn out from all the mental and physical stress.
Here are 3 simple strategies that you can use to set boundaries and take care of yourself.
1. Put yourself first.
You're no use to anyone—family, friends, or coworkers—when you're stressed out and overwhelmed. Make sure you get what you need to function at your best before committing to helping anyone else.
2. Set your own hours.
Decide when you're willing to help out or do things for other people. This includes spouses and kids! If you want a night off to relax, you're entitled to it.
3. Just say "No."
Never be afraid to turn down the requests that people make of you. You don't need an excuse to decline, either. If you truly want to do something and you have the time for it, then great. But you don't need to say "yes" just because you were asked.
Remember, good boundaries help protect adults with ADD from succumbing to overwhelm.
What have you done to create good boundaries? Share your thoughts on my blog at http://www.experiencingaddvantages.com/2009/09/boundaries.html#comments
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